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Insights on healing, narcissism, relationships, and the Mind Map way.
Trauma
The 4 Trauma Responses: Are You a Freezer, Flighter, Fighter, or Fawner?
Your nervous system has a default setting under stress. You did not choose it. You inherited it from a much younger version of yourself who needed it to survive. Here's how to identify yours and why most people guess...
May 28, 2026
Anxiety
Generalized Anxiety vs. Trauma Anxiety: Why Your Therapy Might Not Be Working
If you've been in therapy for years and still feel anxious, you may not be in the wrong therapy but instead may be treating the wrong condition. Here's the clinical difference and how to know which one you're...
May 21, 2026
Anxiety
Why You Can't Stop Overthinking and the Nervous System Reset That Actually Works
If you've tried journaling, meditation apps, and "just letting it go"-and your brain still won't stop at 3 a.m.-you're stuck in a loop your nervous system was trained to run. Here's how to interrupt it. Let me say...
May 11, 2026
Therapy
MDMA, Psychedelics, Ketamine... or a Deeper Truth?
Why Healing Trauma Requires More Than a Chemical Shift In recent years, alternative trauma treatments such as MDMA-assisted therapy, psychedelic journeys, and ketamine infusions have gained widespread attention....
Apr 22, 2026
Couples Therapy
How Do You Know If Your Spouse Is a Narcissist?
We often enter relationships believing in love, connection, and the promise of emotional safety. But what happens when the very person who once felt like home becomes the source of confusion, pain, and self-doubt?...
Apr 3, 2026
Borderline Personality Disorder
Recovering From a Breakup With a Borderline Personality
Understanding the Mind Map of the Wound, Boundaries, and Healing Breaking up with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can feel like escaping a psychological tornado. The relationship often contains...
Mar 6, 2026
Psychology
Shock Good: The Intentional Disruption of Defensive Patterns Through Conscious Ownership
When couples enter therapy, they rarely arrive neutral. They come armored - not with visible weapons, but with defenses. Blame.Withdrawal.Criticism.Intellectual superiority.Silence. Over time, these defenses form...
Feb 24, 2026
Couples Therapy
Cognitive Dissonance, Narcissistic Defense, and the Recruitment of the Intimate Partner
There is no end to how far a person will go to protect a fragile identity. When a narcissistically organized individual is confronted with evidence that contradicts their self-image, they do not simply disagree. They...
Feb 22, 2026
Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse by Proxy
Narcissistic abuse is often misunderstood as a private, dyadic relationship between a narcissistic individual and their primary victim. In reality, one of the most devastating and least discussed forms of this abuse...
Feb 10, 2026
Blog
Smoking Isn't the Problem, It's the Protection
In her powerful new book Kick It, Dr. Judy reveals what most stop-smoking programs miss: Smoking isn't a bad habit. It's a defense mechanism formed to protect a childhood wound. From the Be The Cause Mind Map...
Jan 14, 2026
Abuse
The Role of Emotional Neglect in Anxiety and Depression
From a Mind Map perspective, emotional neglect is a very serious childhood wound and is often an overlooked form of childhood adversity, yet its impact can ripple through a person's life, shaping their mental health...
Dec 18, 2025
Blog
Why Do We Stay? Understanding the Psychology Behind Narcissistic Relationships
Relationships with narcissistic individuals can be deeply challenging, leaving partners feeling confused, emotionally drained, and stuck. Despite recognizing the signs of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional...
Dec 11, 2025
Abuse
Narcissistic Mothers and Food Abuse
Everything a Narcissistic Mothers and Food Abuse does is about getting her need for supply and control met. It is therefore no different when it comes to food and feeding her children. Narcissistic Mothers and Food...
Dec 11, 2025
Narcissism
Breaking Free: Steps to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse leaves scars that aren't always visible to others, but they can be deeply painful and life-altering. Whether you've experienced this abuse from a partner, parent, or other significant person in...
Dec 9, 2025
Abuse
How to Recognize the Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships
Navigating relationships can be challenging at the best of times, but being involved with a narcissistic abuser adds another layer of complexity and pain. Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional and psychological...
Nov 11, 2025
Abuse
The Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Parenting on Emotional Well-being
Our parents are the emotional foundation and blueprint of our psyche, influencing how we view ourselves, relate to others, and process our feelings. When parenting is overshadowed by narcissism, the effects can...
Oct 22, 2025
Narcissism
A Day in the Life of Living with a Narcissist
In a world where terms like "narcissist" and "gaslighting" are becoming ubiquitous, it's crucial to shine a light on the reality of living with or encountering a narcissistic individual. For those who find themselves...
Oct 10, 2025
Couples Therapy
Introducing Dr. Judy Rosenberg to The Love Script Movie
Framing her role: From clinician to cinematic mentor 1. The narrative framing device In the film, Dr. Rosenberg could be introduced via a scene where a couple or series of couples are struggling with recurring...
Oct 2, 2025
Couples Therapy
Synergistic Relationships-the only game in town
Childhood is often romanticized as a time of innocence and joy, but the truth is, it can also be a crucible where wounds are formed, leaving lasting imprints on our psyche. These childhood wounds, whether they stem...
Jun 6, 2024
Therapy
Living the Mind Map Way: Shifting from Human to Humane (Part 1)
This blog is a summary of the discussion between Dr. Judy and Avner Madar - a renowned teacher of the Kabbalah. Dr Judy was taught by Avner and, 10 years ago, developed her Mind Map system based on some of the key...
Jun 5, 2024
Couples Therapy
The Shame and Guilt of Pulling Out of a Bad Relationship with a Narcissist!
Leaving a narcissistic relationship can be one of the most liberating and empowering decisions you'll ever make, but it's not without its challenges. While you may have endured emotional abuse, manipulation, and...
Jun 4, 2024
Couples Therapy
Choosing a Narcissistic Relationship: What's In It For Us?
Love can be a double-edged sword, especially when it entwines with narcissism. Narcissistic relationships, characterized by manipulative, self-centred, and controlling partners, are emotionally devastating. Yet, many...
Jun 2, 2024
Blog
Narcissistic Families and the Golden Child
Narcissistic families are a hidden world of dysfunction that leaves deep emotional scars on their members. In these families, one of the most common and damaging dynamics is the presence of a "golden child." The...
Jun 2, 2024
Blog
Loving a Narcissist: Understanding the Illusion of Love
Love is a fulfilling emotion that is sought after by most people. However, for those who find themselves in a relationship with a narcissist, love can quickly become a mirage. Narcissists are self-absorbed...
Jan 25, 2024
Blog
Understanding Narcissistic Behavior: Protecting Yourself from Emotional Abuse
Narcissistic behavior is a severe issue that affects a significant portion of the population. It is a personality disorder in which individuals have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for...
Jan 18, 2024
Blog
The Role of Gaslighting in Narcissistic Abuse: Recognizing and Overcoming Psychological Manipulation
It's undeniable that narcissistic abuse is a highly damaging and traumatizing experience. Unfortunately, too many people fall victim to this type of abuse, and it can be difficult to escape the clutches of the...
Jan 4, 2024
Abuse
Parental Narcissistic Abuse: How It Impacts Children's Emotional Well-being.
Parental narcissistic abuse is a type of emotional abuse that targets children. It is a form of manipulation that has long-term effects on a person's psychological health, including anxiety, depression, and low...
Jan 4, 2024
Blog
Latest Dr. Judy WTF Episode -Are You Holiday Feasting... On Resentments?
Managing Holiday Resentments TLDR Dr. Judy discusses holiday resentments and their impact on our experiences during the holiday season, emphasizing the importance of addressing and managing these resentments to...
Dec 18, 2023
Abuse
Signs and Symptoms or Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse is an all pervasive form of psychological and emotional bullying that often goes unnoticed. Unlike physical abuse, its scars are invisible but are just as/if not more damaging. In this blog, we'll...
Oct 23, 2023
Blog
Divorcing a narcissist: be prepared!
Divorcing a narcissist is never going to be a walk in the park! In fact, it will probably feel more like being stamped on and robbed in the dark! This may be the reason that so many choose to remain living under the...
Aug 22, 2023
Narcissism
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: Toxic vs. Healthy Love
If you are the child of a narcissistic parent or you have been in a relationship with an abusive partner, then it is quite likely that, at some point, you chose to settle for less than healthy love. If we think about...
Aug 12, 2023
Blog
Trapped in a Narcissistic Relationship? Your Pathway to Healing
The word itself, 'trapped' is a perfect way to sum up the whole experience of being in relationship with a narcissist. It is like the mouse that is lured in by the sight and smell of cheese. Only to find that as soon...
Aug 7, 2023
Psychology
Healing Together: You are not alone and we have and we have a plan
Healing from the wounds of childhood, particularly narcissistic abuse, can be a very lonelyjourney and it is important to have support. Ideally this would be from a therapist who can act asan enlightened witness and...
Aug 5, 2023
Blog
Healing Together: You are not alone and we have a plan!
Healing from the wounds of childhood, particularly narcissistic abuse, can be a very lonely journey and it is important to have support. Ideally this would be from a therapist who can act as an enlightened witness...
Jul 25, 2023
Blog
'Negative Core Beliefs: How they Derail Communication'
Your negative core beliefs will be having a significant impact on your relationships. What is a negative core belief? They are beliefs about yourself that are deeply ingrained and often formed in early childhood...
Jun 22, 2023
Blog
Authenticity and Intuition: Your Pathway to Self-Protection With Amy Redford Director/Producer
Authenticity and following your intuition are closely intertwined. Authenticity refers to being true to oneself, embracing one's values, beliefs, and individuality. It involves expressing your genuine thoughts,...
Jun 22, 2023
Narcissism
Mother's day with a Narcissistic Mother
What should be a day that prompts a natural desire to give thanks for the one who brought you into the world and raised you, is for some, a day of obligation and pretend. It doesn't help that the media is wrought...
May 25, 2023
Borderline Personality Disorder
The BPD/NPD Mother uses one of her children as a safe-base
According to attachment theory, a secure/safe-base is crucial for a child's development and is provided through a relationship with one or more attuned and responsive attachment figures. This caregiver is a safe...
May 25, 2023
Blog
Synergistic Childhood Wounds and their effects on the Psyche
According to the Oxford English Dictionary, the word synergistic refers to the following: 'Relating to the interaction or cooperation of two or more organizations, substances, or other agents to produce a combined...
Apr 25, 2023
Blog
Ethics and Self Reflection: A Pathway for Healing Narcissistic Behaviours
We all have unhealthy narcissistic traits and the reason that they are unhealthy is that they cause disconnection from others. But where do these ways of relating to the world, to others and ourselves come from? In...
Apr 18, 2023
Therapy
How to Live Your Best Life Now: Tips for Achieving Your Goals
It's never too late to start living your best life. There is always something you can do right now to set yourself up for success and achieve your goals. Below are some tips and tricks for creating a better life for...
Feb 19, 2023
Blog
The Aging Narcissist and Sex
Aging isn't easy for most of us, but when it comes to a narcissistic personality, it is terrifying to say the least and to avoided at all costs. Why is this? If we remember that narcissistic personality disorder is...
Feb 19, 2023
Couples Therapy
NARCISSISM AND HIGH CONFLICT MARRIAGE
When one partner is narcissistic or has narcissistic traits, it is very difficult to have a healthy, synergistic relationship. The narcissistic defense is like a huge impenetrable wall. This wall makes it impossible...
Jan 17, 2023
Blog
Incest and the Narcissistic parent
Childhood sexual abuse by a blood relation is a widespread phenomenon that has lasting negative psychological and physical effects in victims. A meta-analysis by Stoltenborgh et.al (2011) suggested that globally,...
Jan 17, 2023
Family Therapy
The Sexualization of Children in the Narcissistic Family
Where do we first begin to learn about sex? Each of us first gains an understanding of an intimate physical and emotional relationships by watching and attuning to our parents. We are acutely aware of the tensions as...
Dec 18, 2022
Borderline Personality Disorder
Why some become narcissists and others borderline
Narcissistic personality disorder and Borderline Personality disorder are bothdisorders of relating. They are dysfunctional means of seeing and being with self andothers. Thus, in order to understand why each...
Nov 11, 2022
Abuse
WHEN THE TRAUMA BOND IS YOUR SAFE PLACE
In order to heal from narcissistic abuse, whether familial or in relationships in general, it is absolutely vital to have a clear understanding of what the trauma bond is. We have to be aware of this because it is at...
Oct 31, 2022
Abuse
Effects Of Apathy On The Psyche
There are many forms of disconnect however apathy is the most injurious. Apathy kills the human spirit and leaves a person feeling worthless and hopeless. Children define themselves in the eyes of their parents. If...
Oct 21, 2022
Blog
Seeking Better Mental Health
With all the craziness in the world today, it is a small wonder that so many find themselves dealing with mental health problems. On top of that, there is the nature of today's work environment and jobs and careers...
Oct 20, 2022
Blog
WHY ARE PEOPLE SO DRAWN TO TRUE CRIME/Jeffrey Dahmer Netflix
More than understanding Who Done It, people are FASCINATED with WHY. The human psyche is complicated, to say the least, however if you take the full picture of Jeffrey Dahmer's childhood and his childhood wounds into...
Oct 4, 2022
Blog
Tips to Create Healthy Goals and Maintain a Positive Outlook While Grieving
Grief can be one of the most challenging obstacles to overcome. While it's not always possible to maintain your original routine, you can use this time to make healthy changes in your life that last long after the...
Sep 20, 2022
Abuse
EFFECTS OF SMOTHERING AND CONTROLLING ON THE PSYCHE
I'm sure you've heard of the phrase smother mother. Of course it can apply to fathers as well. Smothering can stunt psychological growth and createl anxiety, depression and a lack of self-confidence. It's an issue of...
Sep 16, 2022
Abuse
The Effects of Sexual Abuse on the Psyche
Sexual abuse is a very wide topic and unfortunately is happening in epidemic proportions, both in the United States and worldwide. One out of 9 females experience sexual abuse by an adult. These children are four...
Sep 7, 2022
Abuse
EFFECTS OF PHYSICAL ABUSE ON THE PSYCHE
Physical abuse not only scars the body, it also scars the psyche. If you have been a victim of physical abuse, it would not be surprising if you suffer from some form of Complex PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress...
Aug 31, 2022
Abuse
VERBAL ABUSE AND IT'S EFFECTS ON THE PSYCHE
As children, we internalize the messages that our parents communicate to us. In the case of verbal abuse, the message is loud and clear, and there is no ambiguity in the words spoken. Like sponges, children ingest...
Aug 30, 2022
Narcissism
THE DOUBLE DUNGEON OF DARKNESS: When BOTH Parents are Narcissists
The effects of narcissistic abuse on a child has deleterious effects way into adulthood and beyond into the next generation. As if having ONE narcissistic parent isn't damaging enough, having two parents who lack...
Aug 20, 2022
Blog
Tips to Create Healthy Goals and Maintain a Positive Outlook While Grieving
Grief can be one of the most challenging obstacles to overcome. While it's not always possible to maintain your original routine, you can use this time to make healthy changes in your life that last long after the...
Jun 10, 2022
Blog
Caregiving Technologies Can Enhance Security and Autonomy for Your Vulnerable Loved Ones
When you are responsible for a senior loved one, or a loved one with special needs, it's not always possible for you to be present for them round the clock. And even when they are adept at managing on their own, you...
Jun 10, 2022
Blog
Obsessive Compulsive Behaviors (OCD) As A Defense Mechanism
The Mental Health Foundation describes obsessive compulsive disorder, (OCD), as "a type of anxiety disorder characterized by intrusive and frequent obsessions and repetitive and ritualistic behaviors". Symptoms of...
Mar 25, 2022
Abuse
A Group Approach to Recovery (Healing the Wounds of Narcissism)
Although one on one therapy is often necessary and individual to a person's recovery, a community-based approach offers a substantial amount of space and support that can be extremely beneficial to the alienating...
Mar 23, 2022
Abuse
The Guilt and Shame of No Contact
The "no contact" rule refers to cutting off all ties of communication/ contact with another to allow space to grieve and heal. This may be implicated after a break- up due to the abusive and toxic nature of the...
Mar 17, 2022
Blog
Dr. Judy on Healing Global Disconnect
A STATEMENT FROM DR. JUDY ROSENBERG founder of the Psychological Healing Center & the Be The Cause system of healing human & global disconnect Healing global disconnect is long overdue. As a psychologist, I know that...
Mar 2, 2022
Blog
Embracing What We Deserve (Not the Narcissist)
To attain what we deserve, there are a few conditions to consider. First, we must raise the bar on what we have previously settled for and do the work to release ourselves from old limitations. Next, it is incredibly...
Feb 24, 2022
Blog
The Hurter Can't be the Healer, Unless...
Disagreement and conflict are an inevitable part of the human experience. In a perfect world, all of us would have been modeled healthy relationship patterns, productive communication skills, healthy coping...
Feb 18, 2022
Blog
Narcissism and Plagiarism
When getting involved with others in a business, creative, or educational endeavor, it is important to establish boundaries to protect yourself, your time, ideas, money, etc. It is also important to remain receptive...
Feb 11, 2022
Abuse
Proactively Creating Emotional Regulation in Relationships
When two people come together in a relationship, so do their wounds, triggers, and ways of coping. In order to create a synergistic relationship, two people must be willing to learn about, support, and accept each...
Feb 3, 2022
Blog
Narcissism: Power and Control- A Sabotage to Love and Intimacy
Narcissism, in the simplest of terms, is a system gone wrong. A person with narcissistic personality disorder carries an exaggerated sense of self-importance, with an unrealistic need for admiration, a lack of...
Jan 27, 2022
Blog
Why Couple's Therapy Must Include Individual Therapy
Traditional couple's therapy tends to focus mainly on communication skills and not enough on the cause of miscommunication. When two people come together in a romantic relationship, so do their wounds. It is...
Jan 19, 2022
Blog
Be the Cause of Better Outcomes for Your Life
"Control of consciousness determines the quality of life" ~Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi "I regard consciousness as fundamental. I regard matter as derivative from consciousness. We cannot get behind consciousness....
Jan 14, 2022
Blog
Peaceful Healing Dialogue
How to Communicate Without Breaking the Bond The Peaceful Healing Dialogue is a communication tool that teaches respectful ways of communicating through transparency, self-reflection, active listening, empathy, and...
Jan 6, 2022
Couples Therapy
What is Synergy in a relationship and how can you get it
What is Synergy Synergy is recognized when the sides of an interaction are mutually beneficial. It describes the positive effect resulting from cooperation. In relationships, examples of synergy can be seen when...
Dec 11, 2021
Blog
A Comparison Between Traditional Talk Therapy and Mind Map Therapy
Comparison Between Traditional Talk Therapy and Mind Map Therapy in terms of The Power and Effectiveness Mind Map Therapy My Entry into Mind Map Therapy I graduated from the California Institute of Integral Studies...
Nov 30, 2021
Blog
Caregiving Technologies Can Enhance Security and Autonomy for Your Vulnerable Loved Ones
When you are responsible for a senior loved one, or a loved one with special needs, it's not always possible for you to be present for them round the clock. And even when they are adept at managing on their own, you...
Jul 21, 2021
Blog
Why Relationships Fail
Relationships and Our Unmet Desires A common dilemma for so many of us is our lack of satisfaction in our intimate partnerships. We come to realize, after the honeymoon period has ended, that the person we originally...
Jul 20, 2021
Blog
Tiger Woods faces a difficult road to recovery, doctors say
Medical experts predict that Tiger Woods will have a difficult road to recovery following his crash in Los Angeles this week. The 45-year-old golf legend suffered "serious injuries" to his lower right leg and ankle,...
Jul 15, 2021
Blog
Jeff Lewis
Jeff Lewis Says He and Boyfriend of 11 Months Are in Couples Counseling Lewis began dating Scott Anderson shortly after his split from his partner of ten years, Gage Edward, with whom he shares three-year-old...
May 10, 2021
Blog
Dr. Judy Rosenberg
Portia de Rossi could suffer a relapse anytime soon? Dr. Judy Rosenberg, the founder of California's Psychological Healing Center, also weighed in on the matter. However, it is important to note that Rosenberg didn't...
Apr 8, 2021
Blog
DEPP'S NEW FLICK
JOHNNY DEPP'S sinking ship continues to take on water as reviewers slammed the former movie pirate's latest flick, "Waiting for the Barbarians," sources snitched. The once-bankable star, 57, had been box-office gold...
Mar 18, 2021
Narcissism
Narcissistic Mothers Say it Best When They Say Nothing at All!
The thing about narcissistic mothers is that they are always communicating- regardless of whether they are speaking or even in your presence. Why do I say this? Well, narcissistic mothers communicate without using...
Mar 17, 2021
Blog
Bling Empire's Kelly Mi Li & Andrew Get Help From the Psychological Healing Center
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Jan 28, 2021
Psychology
National Mental Health Day
"If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could be better changed in ourselves." - C. G. Jung I write this post, today, 10/10/2020...
Oct 22, 2020
Blog
Arrested Development & Chaos
Just because someone looks grown up, doesn't mean they have reached all the developmental milestones necessary to have a matching mental age. Role Play There are a lot of roles an adult must take on in life whether...
Jul 5, 2020
Blog
How to Negotiate with a Narcissist with Rebecca Zung
When you're up against someone who is determined to demean, devalue, and destroy you, you need to arm yourself with a set of skills. Introducing Rebecca Zung, Esq. "I'm a divorce attorney by trade, but I do a lot of...
Jul 5, 2020
Blog
COVID-19 and Our Psychological Triggers
Coronavirus and preventing wound reopening It is normal to feel anxious and threatened during this time. We develop unhealthy habits that dial us up: watching news constantly, reading every article, sleeping at late...
Jun 28, 2020
Blog
Self Quarantine and Relationship Breakdowns
Coronavirus: A Global Wound We have a global wound: coronavirus. We can't fight or flee, so we feel stuck. When we are thrown into crisis, our negative core beliefs such as "I will never be safe" or "nothing good...
Jun 25, 2020
Blog
Coronavirus and Healing Human Disconnect
Coronavirus and Common Sense With the spread of misinformation about coronavirus, it becomes dangerous for us to believe everything we read. In times like these, it is important to use our common sense. We have to...
Jun 18, 2020
Psychology
Cultural Wounds and the Hole in the Soul
Panel 1: The Wound Racism is not innate. It is learned. No matter what race you are born into, you are not born with hate in your heart. Similar to the love, attunement, and nurturing a baby needs to form a healthy...
Jun 16, 2020
Blog
Why People Choose an Ineffective Therapist
Navigating the sea of options for therapy can seem daunting. Often, people cycle through many different therapists who just do not seem to help. Some even go through months or years with a therapist who does not to...
Jun 1, 2020
Blog
The ABC's of Resentment
When in a triangle with mutual connections and two people have a disconnect, the dynamics with the third person change. Let us call the person who was wronged be called A, the person who wronged person A be called B...
May 23, 2020
Blog
Overt Narcissism
As opposed to covert narcissists, overt narcissists are easy to pick out of a crowd. They are up front with their self centeredness, often bragging, publicly putting others down, and flashing their connections and...
Mar 27, 2020
Abuse
Covert Narcissism
When we think about a narcissist, the image that pops into mind closely follows that of the Greek myth of Narcissus. In the myth, Narcissus was a self-obsessed, boasting, haughty man. His demise came when he found a...
Mar 12, 2020
Blog
Happy Valentine's Day- Let's Talk About Love
On the day the world celebrates the wonderful emotion of love, it is important to remind ourselves of what healthy love looks like. But first, we have to understand what goes into love in the first place. Sternberg's...
Feb 18, 2020
Blog
Converting the Narcissist: The "Key" to Our "Cure"
Too often, we try to convert the narcissists that hurt us into the people we wish they were. People that will see us as worthy. People that love us. We want them to heal our wounds. However, we cannot rely on our...
Feb 12, 2020
Blog
Effects of Fragile Parents on Their Children
A fragile parent is a parent who has their own unresolved health issues, whether they are mental or physical. If a child grows up with a parent who is not in a healthy place, they become accustomed to abnormal...
Jan 28, 2020
Abuse
Building a Sense of Self After Narcissistic Abuse
Realizing that you have been abused by a narcissist is hard enough. Building a sense of self after the fact can be even harder. Although it is an uphill climb, the hike is worth what is at the top of the mountain....
Jan 20, 2020
Abuse
Narcissistic Parenting: Stealing Your Sense of Self
In a quote by Dr. Judy Rosenberg, she states that "narcissism is consuming. It sucks the air out of the room." When a victim is being manipulated by a narcissistic abuser, especially a parent, it can feel like...
Jan 13, 2020
Blog
Setting Your Consciousness: Mind Mapping 2020
Setting your consciousness at a healthy starting point before setting intentions is necessary. A mind in chaos from unaddressed psychological pain may pose obstacles to your intentions. Unwanted reactions and...
Jan 9, 2020
Blog
20/20 For 2020: Clearing Your Cracked Lens of Perception
When you live with a cracked lens of perception, your reality is different from everyone else's. What is a cracked lens of perception? According to Dr. Judy Rosenberg in her book, "Be The Cause: Healing Human...
Dec 30, 2019
Blog
Boundaries: Law of Attraction vs. Law of Allowance
A recent wave of therapeutic techniques brought a new way of thinking called "The Law of Attraction" into the limelight. The Law of Attraction is a theory that states that positive thinking attracts positive life...
Nov 14, 2019
Abuse
Changing Narcissistic Parents: A Lost Cause
In a healthy parent-child relationship, the parent works to meet the child's needs. The parent gives the child proper care and attunement as a newborn and the child grows to be a healthy and independent adult....
Oct 18, 2019
Blog
Grief and Loss
There is seldom a person on this Earth who will go through life without losing someone they love. It can seem as if the mind is reverted to childhood in the face of profound loss. It makes us feel unprepared, and...
Oct 13, 2019
Abuse
Borderline Personality Disorder
Painful wounds of childhood can result in defense mechanisms such as unhealthy fluctuation of emotions. If one has trouble controlling their emotions, this can have a negative effect on one's quality of life and...
Oct 2, 2019
Addiction
Toxic Relationships
It may be hard to believe, but it is just as possible to become addicted to a person as it is to become addicted to drugs or alcohol. Just like alcoholism and drug addiction have adverse effects on our health,...
Sep 4, 2019
Blog
In-Laws: Issues and Boundaries
Marriage is a beautiful thing. It means accepting someone fully and totally. It is declaring someone who was once a stranger your family. Along with that new declaration of family comes the inevitable: accepting your...
Aug 29, 2019
Blog
Makings of a Narcissist: Is Narcissism A Choice?
When I think of a narcissist, my mind produces a cartoonish image of someone staring in the mirror, stroking their reflection affectionately and constantly boasting their attributes to the world. However, narcissism...
Aug 6, 2019
Blog
Sibling Rivalry
Everyone with a little sister or brother cringes when someone says they wish they'd had a younger sibling. Everyone with an older brother or sister scoffs when someone says they wish they'd had the protective...
Aug 1, 2019
Psychology
Self-Abuse: WTFing Yourself
Upon hearing the word "abuse," the automatic thought goes to an abusive relationship, parental or romantic. But too often people forget to acknowledge the most important relationships in life: our relationships with...
Jul 13, 2019
Couples Therapy
Couples Conflicts and Emotional Triggers
Ah, love. Love is a beautiful journey that so many couples get to experience together. But it is rarely the cakewalk many people expect it to be. To be frank, love hurts. The reality is couples fight. They get on...
Jul 2, 2019
Anxiety
Dependent Personality
All human beings are born dependent. Babies need someone to carry them around, feed them, nurture them, and love them. With every passing year, the mentally healthy child grows more independent. They learn to walk by...
Jun 21, 2019
Abuse
Hurters Can't Be Healers
A child cannot grow into an emotionally healthy adult without empathy from their primary caretaker. When a parent is narcissistic, they are not capable of having empathy for their children. Day by day, they suck the...
Jun 13, 2019
Abuse
Trauma Bonding
Often, people find themselves trapped in abusive relationships. It is very common to fall down the rabbit hole of a toxic person's design. In these situations, a psychological phenomena called Trauma Bonding...
Jun 6, 2019
Family Therapy
Scapegoating: The Moving Target
The practice of Scapegoating is a way of projecting family issues onto one family member. Usually, the family scapegoat's a particular child. The reason for choosing the child is complicated. Perhaps the child is...
May 24, 2019
Narcissism
Happy Narcissistic Mother's Day - Contact Vs. No Contact
Mother's Day is an opportunity to show appreciation for all the things mothers do for their children. Whether it be treating them to a meal, buying them a purse, or snagging a "#1 Mom" card, there are endless ways...
May 22, 2019
Psychology
THE EMOTIONAL BRAIN, THE AMYGDALA AND PROCESSING EARLY WOUNDS
Although the amygdala is roughly the size of a kidney bean, it plays a large role in human survival. It is responsible for activating our fight-or-flight response, controls emotional learning, and stores what we...
May 15, 2019
Blog
Dr. Judy Featured on Dash Dolls
Dr. Judy Rosenberg, a leading psychologist celebrated for her innovative Mind Map Therapy, captivated audiences with her appearance on the Dash Dolls show, where she shared her profound insights into emotional...
Mar 19, 2019
Blog
Relationship With Self. The Most Important One There Is.
Connection with others is what makes us humans feel safe, happy and fulfilled. This, however, is not the only relationship that is necessary for a joyous life. The relationship with one's self, if not properly...
Jan 23, 2019
Blog
Narcissistic Abuse Meet Up Group in Sherman Oaks
The narcissistic abuse victims and survivors' group will meet up weekly, Sunday nights from 7 to 8:30 in Sherman Oaks. The group will consist of fellow victims and survivors who have experienced the atrocities of...
Jan 11, 2019
Narcissism
Narcissism and the Abandonment Wound
When a child is not properly cared for, loved, mirrored, and attuned to, the child will feel abandoned regardless of whether the parents are there physically or not. A child in this situation will not be able to...
Dec 20, 2018
Addiction
Sex Addiction
Sexual addiction, like many other types of addictions, creates momentary highs and deep dark lows. Upon orgasm the brain releases a rush of "feel good" chemicals called endorphins. These feel good chemicals set us up...
Oct 24, 2018
Blog
GIFT OF BREASTFEEDING
GIFT OF BREASTFEEDING Vesna Kocev BFPC CLC Based on Dr Judy's "Be the Cause Mind Map® System" and Dr John Bowlby's "Attachment Theory" as well as my experience as a lactation counselor, I can easily say to all moms...
Sep 5, 2018
Blog
Back to School Anxiety
Going back to school means different things for different children. For some, it represents the excitement of meeting up with old classmates, being part of a team whether is be sports or otherwise, and the excitement...
Sep 4, 2018
Abuse
Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA)
Ritual abuse, as defined by the Ritual Abuse Task Force, is "a brutal form of abuse of children, adolescents, and adults, consisting of physical, sexual and psychological abuse, and involving the use of rituals." The...
Aug 7, 2018
Blog
What were they thinking? Psychologist weighs in on Moore, Franken, Spacey controversies
What were they thinking? Psychologist weighs in on Moore, Franken, Spacey controversies Clinical psychologist Dr. Judy Rosenberg, CEO of PsychologicalHealingCenter.com, joined "The Final 5″ to the discuss the sexual...
Nov 23, 2017
Blog
Here's Why Taking a Shorter Vacation Is Actually Better for You, According to Psychologists
Given the choice between one or two weeks on the beach, who would opt for a shorter break? Maybe no one? But new research may surprise you: three-day weekends can be just as replenishing as longer vacations. This is...
Sep 25, 2017
Blog
3 Ways to Successfully Discuss Race Relations With Employees
There's been a lot going on in our country lately. The events in Charlottesville have become the latest reminder that racial tensions still exist in America. And while leaders hope these controversies don't carry...
Sep 6, 2017
Narcissism
Flying Monkeys
According to Urban Dictionary, a Flying Monkey is someone who does the narcissist's bidding to inflict additional torment to the narcissist's victim or victims. From a Mind Map perspective a narcissist is an...
Aug 15, 2017
Blog
Dr. Judy Featured in Reader's Digest
Dr. Judy has been featured in Readers Digest speaking on the topic of "What to Do If Your Boss Is a Psychopath." To see the full article please go to the link below....
Jul 26, 2017
Psychology
Psychological Cultural Wounds
Just because something is culturally correct, it doesn't mean that it is mentally healthy. Different cultures ruin their children in different ways. Here at the Psychological Healing Center, we are very cognizant of...
Mar 1, 2017
Depression
4 Natural Ways to Manage Seasonal Affective Disorder
Also called seasonal depression, seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a form of depression that affects people during the same time each year. For most people, SAD symptoms begin in the fall and ease when spring...
Feb 27, 2017
Psychology
Be The Cause™
Be The Cause™ simply means that once we heal our emotional wounds from our past, we can Be The Cause™ of creating better outcomes for our lives. Being The Cause means that as we heal, we are free to create and...
Nov 28, 2016
Narcissism
EFFECTS OF A NARCISSISTIC MOTHER ON HER CHILDREN
Narcissistic mothers are injured people. Emotional injuries are multi-generational, meaning that they get passed down from one generation to the next. When a parent is narcissistically injured, they will project...
Aug 10, 2016
Parenting
What You Need to Know About Helicopter Parenting
The term "helicopter parenting" comes from the notion that parents, like helicopters, hover over their children, monitoring and controlling their lives. Helicopter parenting is a form of emotional injury to your...
Jun 24, 2016
Anxiety
Living With an Anxiety Disorder and Treatments to Overcome Anxiety
Let's face it: in such a fast paced and goal driven society, it is a given that we will encounter anxiety at some point or another. We have deadlines to meet, places to be, money to make and still hopefully we can...
May 27, 2016
Couples Therapy
How to Keep Your Marriage Hot
You may have sworn to love your spouse in sickness and in health, but most marriage vows don't address the common problem of getting stuck in a sexual rut. We reached out to 14 of the world's top relationship experts...
Sep 3, 2015
Blog
Loneliness
Loneliness is a very common form of human suffering. It starts with Mother Figure-Infant disconnect as the CAUSE. When the primary caregiver does not supply enough of the emotional ingredients for the baby to take in...
Jul 18, 2013
Anxiety
Mother Infant Disconnect & Anxiety
Feeling Stuck In A Rut And Not Knowing WhyI'm very big on Sigmund Freud. He was a genius in many senses of the word. He introduced a concept that is invaluable in my practice: the repetition principle. The textbook...
Jul 18, 2013
Addiction
Mood & Food
Overeating, especially during the holidays, can destabilize your mood. Food, like any drug, can be used to self-medicate our emotions. It starts with Mother-Infant disconnect as CAUSE. When Mother, or primary...
Jul 18, 2013
Couples Therapy
Why 'Keeping Score' Ruins Relationships (And How To Stop NOW)
Instead of keeping score, give in your own way because you want to.We don't mean to, but we do it all the time: that unconscious tally-what you did, what I did. What I did that you didn't do. What I wish you would...
Jul 18, 2013
Couples Therapy
COUPLE'S THERAPY USING THE MIND MAP: HEALING HUMAN DISCONNECT
I often get calls from couples complaining that they have been to several therapists with no results. Why is this so?The fact of the matter is, when two people come together in an intimate relationship, past wounds...
Jul 17, 2013